Are You Being Gaslighted? Your husband crosses the line in his flirtations with another woman at a dinner party. When you confront him, he asks you to stop being insecure and controlling. After a long argument, you apologize for giving him a hard time. Your boss backed you on a project when you met privately in his office, and you went full steam ahead. But at a large gathering of staffaincluding yoursahe suddenly changes his tune and publicly criticizes your poor judgment. When you tell him your concerns for how this will affect your authority, he tells you that the project was ill-conceived and youall have to be more careful in the future. You begin to question your competence. Your mother belittles your clothes, your job, your friends, and your boyfriend. But instead of fighting back as your friends encourage you to do, you tell them that your mother is often right and that a mature person should be able to take a little criticism. If you think things like this canat happen to you, think again. Gaslighting is when someone wants you to do what you know you shouldnat and to believe the unbelieveable. It can happen to you and it probably already has. How do we know? If you consider answering ayesa to even one of the following questions, youave probably been gaslighted: Does your opinion of yourself change according to approval or disapproval from your spouse? When your boss praises you, do you feel as if you could conquer the world? Do you dread having small things go wrong at homeabuying the wrong brand of toothpaste, not having dinner ready on time, a mistaken appointment written on the calendar? Gaslighting is an insidious form of emotional abuse and manipulation that is difficult to recognize and even harder to break free from. Thatas because it plays into one of our worst fearsaof being abandonedaand many of our deepest needs: to be understood, appreciated, and loved. In this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to: Turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble Determine whether you are enabling a gaslighter Recognize the Three Stages of Gaslighting: Disbelief, Defense, and Depression Refuse to be gaslighted by using the Five Rules for Turning Off the Gas Develop your own aGaslight Barometera so you can decide which relationships can be savedaand which you have to walk away from Learn how to Gasproof Your Life so that youall never again choose another gaslighting relationshipIn this groundbreaking guide, the prominent therapist Dr. Robin Stern shows how the Gaslight Effect works and tells you how to: Turn up your Gaslight Radar, so you know when a relationship is headed for trouble Determine whether you are ...
|Title||:||The Gaslight Effect|
|Author||:||Dr. Robin Stern|
|Publisher||:||Harmony - 2007-05-01|